Here there is a wonderful quote from an Italian writer that I love, Italo Calvino.
-The hell is not only on the other side, it’s also presents in this life, down here and we live it everyday. There are two ways to not suffering from. The first is easy for the most, to accept the hell and become part of it till you don’t see it anymore. The second is risky and need constant attention and learning : to search and be able to recognize who and what, among hell, is not hell, and let it last, and give it space.